one day sansa stark is gonna get pushed too far and she’s just gonna fucking lose her shit and start screaming and killing people and singing i’m not your toy by la roux and later surrounded by dead bodies she’s gonna compose herself and be like “i’m so sorry, that was very unladylike wasn’t it”
How long until the 15 year olds take over this post with their garbage
"If a woman has [the right to abortion], why shouldn’t a man be free to use his superior strength to force himself on a woman? At least the rapist’s pursuit of sexual freedom doesn’t result in anyone’s death."
-Something Maine lawmaker Lawrence Lockman actually said
i think my brain melted from all this stupidity
some people are just so stupid they’re dangerous
This is why you should have a cat y’all. Egyptians believed that cats repelled evil spirits.
Yeah, because evil doesn’t want to share space with other evil.
At least this evil cuddles with me.
Does this mean that I’m allergic to evil?
The only way to respond when someone asks you “why do you write strong female characters.”
The last one.
PAOLO SEBASTIAN Autumn/Winter Bridal Collection 2014
When my mom gives me the phone to talk to my relatives
i met some awesome frozen cosplayers and when they did this i asked for a video and i was shocked. but i was wondering why anna’s skirt was more poofy XD.
I MIGHT BE CRYING
we have all read fanfiction that we shouldn’t have
just a few favorite tags
just open up tag viewer on this post and settle in with a snack cause ain’t nobody sleeping tonight, friends
installing tag viewer for this was the best decision i ever made
this is so tragically beautiful
Where do people find these
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print.
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
HEY LOOK EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT 50 SHADES SERIES IN ONE
ooo, someone actually broke down the Safe Sane Consensual thing and how 50 Shades DOESN’T EVEN TOUCH IT WITH A 10 FOOT POLE.
I got so tired of explaining why what I liked was different from this piece of shit. Thank you.
Apart from the stuff that’s already been mentioned I’d like to add one thing that really creeped me out in the book.
Grey tries to feel Ana up while they are having dinner with his family and she “closes her legs to him”. And then he says that he found that incredibly arousing because “no one’s ever said no to him before”.
Let’s spell that out one more time:
Grey is aroused by women refusing his sexual advances.
If a big RAPIST siren doesn’t go off in your head at that, I don’t what to think.
Also, everything in that Safe, Sane, Consensual explanation happens in the first thirty pages or so. The writing is so atrocious. I mean I read normal romance novels and while I think the plots on some of those are meh I realize that walking into it. But the writing is at least not so terrible that I just wanna take a red pen to the damn thing and make it rain blood. The number of times the word grey comes up to describe this guy is so ridiculous that I wanted to stab my own eyes out, the britishisms are out of control for a novel that is supposed to be set in Portland (I believe?), and Ana is such a flat character that even her best friend/roommate who only shows up three times in the first 50 pages (?) is much more interesting than she is.